Oral sex is good.  Sexual intercourse is great!  I don’t know about you, but I like eating…food!  Dinner is great, but dessert is to die for!  Take it from someone who knows!  So often, people compare the two as if they are the same thing.  Ask any man and invite them to a sexual encounter, and about 60% of them will most likely give you a positive answer to your invitation.  Maybe this number is conservative, but I want to believe that some of us do have morals.  Strange as this is though, as the numbers decrease from older men to younger men, and then teenage men, this percentage increases.

My question to you as a reader is, “Do you like eating dinner at breakfast time?”  I am sure some of you said, “Yes!”  I understand because I am a person that likes eating breakfast at all times of the day.  Is there a problem with eating dinner at breakfast, or breakfast at dinner?  No, not really.  The problem comes with consequences.  Did you know that eating dinner at breakfast time, unless you are pretty active, can make you lethargic and sleepy?  Did you know that you can increase your body size and shape by improper eating?  If you are already body-conscious, a few pounds here or there can send you into a tailspin of self-esteem issues!  Proper eating not only helps keep your body in check but your emotions as well.

What does all this talk of food have to do with oral sex?  For most of us, oral sex is coined by the term of ‘eating out.’  Many people also feel that both accomplish fulfillment of the same need.  When I am hungry I eat.  When I need sex, I have it!  Just as I stated above, there are consequences to all of our actions, especially when we put things out of order.  When people are not careful, they consider oral sex as an alternative to sexual intercourse.  Many feel that oral sex is not even the same as sexual intercourse.  Notice the term ‘sex’ in the name.  Oral sex is still sex, the same as anal sex is still sex. 

Two things that we must talk about!  First Thing:  Anything out of place does not fit.  Maybe you eat dessert before dinner, so my analogy above means little or nothing.  But what happens when you go to your science class at first period, and you have it at third period?  Guess what! You are OUT OF PLACE!  What if you are a cheerleader, but you go to get dressed in the football team’s locker room?  You, or they, might like the thought of it, but it’s out of place – the Coach will you remind you of that.  Your argument:  it seems so harmless!  That is true, but looks can be deceiving.  Sex outside of marriage is out of place.  Think of it this way.  If you bake a recipe of cookies, and put the ingredient of dog feces (dog poop) in the list, it is out of place.  If you offer it to someone to eat, and it looked like a chocolate chip, it does not matter how it looks (harmless), it is out of place and dangerous!

Second thing:  Anything done without purpose is useless.  If the reason that you are having out of place sex is to make yourself feel better, make someone else feel better, make others like you, to show them how much you like them, or any number of other reasons, it is done without true purpose.  GOD says that you were built with purpose.  Most people go their whole lives without finding what their purpose is!  They live miserable lives because of this.  Stick with me until the next article and I will help you with your purpose.  For now, know that a lack of self-esteem or trying to be popular is not a good reason (or purpose) for having out of place sex.

One more thing, and we will hit this in another article, most people don’t tell you that pre-marital sex (out of place sex) messes up your sex life after you get married.  Can I put that on blast?!  SEX (ANY KIND) CAN MESS UP GOOD MARRIED SEX!!!!!

Hit me again for some real down truths on what is really going on!  See you next time in this column.

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