How many times have you said something in the past and the words come back into your mind to literally haunt you? I mean every letter and every vowel of each word – replaying over and over inside your head. It is such a grievous feeling of condemnation that it affects you in every possible way. There are many times through these life challenges that I have cried and wept. What is the difference between crying and weeping? I really do not know the politically correct answer. I can only say, for me crying is a reaction to an emotion. Weeping, for me, is the gut wrenching, down-to-the-cord-of-the-pain anguish. Weeping is when you do not know what to do; you have absolutely no control over the circumstances of what is about to occur in that moment. It is as if you are in an action movie…but everything is in slow motion. You’re there…slowly taking in the drama – the hurt – the pain – the suffering – taking it all in and you have no control to stop it – none whatsoever.
The Choices We Make
As a minister, I have a covenant with God. My covenant responsibilities are to take care of God’s sheep. One responsibility is to provide the spiritual and moral tools to help anyone make good decisions that will not spiritually hinder him or her. Spiritually and morally, I am accountable to each person that I encounter. In addition, I am prophet, so I cannot mess us – oh the pressure! I will be in jeopardy of losing my soul to hell if I do not honor my covenant as a minister and prophet. This is why I do not take my “calling” as a joke nor do I operate in my flesh when I prophesized.
Whatever Happened to Respect?
As I was walking home one day, I noticed a couple ahead of me. Every few minutes they stopped to smooch and whisper to each other. All of sudden their gentle touches became violent. They began yelling at each other in the middle of the street. I was tripping on this couple because the words they yelled made me wonder why they were together in the first place. Neither of them displayed the ingredients for a normal, healthy relationship. They weren’t even aware of how ignorant and disrespectful they were being. Well the conversation ended when the “gentleman” yelled “You suck my d!#k!” Not one for backing down, the “young lady” replied, “Well you eat my pu$#y!”
This is not the first time I’ve witnessed “loving couples,” married and unmarried go at it in public. I have been at small friendship gatherings, birthday parties, and at family reunions where this disrespect has become the new norm between couples. They would argue, belittle, curse at one another and bring out personal failures while everyone in attendance looked on. Not only is this disrespectful, but it could also lead to domestic violence. Then these “loving couples” have the nerve to tell those in the room to stay out of their business. Well, if they didn’t want folks commenting or gossiping about their business, they should argue at home.
In today’s society, the term “bitch” has become an affectionate phrase among “friends.” I don’t know about you, but a true friend will not call you a bitch. In fact, when I am not religious or depending on the Holy Spirit to keep my behavior in check, I would smack you into next year for calling me a bitch. For you just called me a horny, aggressive, spiteful, bitter, rude, intrusive, domineering, vulgar dog that worships a pagan god. Yep! Look up the definition in a dictionary. That is what you or anyone who uses the term bitch (“affectionately” or not) is saying to them and speaking into their life.
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